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It’s been two years since you got out of the shitstorm that you called a relationship. You are over your ex, you found someone new who is actually good for you. There’s only one problem….You’re ex isn’t quite over you and is now starting to resemble the creepy guy/girl you see every morning at the bus stop.

The Pestering Ex had all of your attention when you were together, and they took you for granted. In their mind, they still believe that they can get you back with creepy/desperate ditch efforts. It’s easy to say something like, “you don’t know what you’ve got, until it’s gone,” or “people want what they can’t have,” but how about this for a slogan, “You pissed yourself, now get on with life.

”The Pestering Ex may initiate contact in what seems to be a non-threatening way with something like, “Hey, I hope everything is going well and your family is alright, what are you up to these days?” You should delete this message! It reads friendly, however, it means something completely different like, “You were the best thing that ever happened to me, please take me back.”

If you decide to start talking to your ex you will definitely jeopardize your existing relationship. Most adults should be comfortable with their partner both having girl and guy friends, however, a recent ex should not fly. You are not trying to make your ex happy, you are trying to make your existing partner happy, so make a logical choice when it comes to responding.

If the Pestering Ex does not continue to pursue further, then you are lucky. Usually following the seemingly harmless message comes the more desperate confession of all their flaws and how they have changed.